MY Personal growth part 2: "The Growth That No One Sees even yourself"

The Personal Growth Journey is Beautifully Unpredictable.

At first, you think that in a few months, everything will be different that you will finally feel free, released from the prison of your thoughts and unawareness. You picture a dramatic shift, like stepping from suffocating darkness into radiant light—a change that is instant, visible, undeniable.

But that is not how it works, is it?

I remember feeling foolish, almost ready to give up after a whole year of “doing the work” and seeing no obvious transformation. I often wondered, “What have I even been doing?” The temptation to quit everything was strong. But I didn’t.

Then one day, something happened that showed me just how much I had changed. My phone fell into a river. It had been a gift from my brother, and I cherished it deeply. In seconds, it was gone. I told myself maybe it was time I bought my own phone with my own money. I used all my savings to purchase another one. But just a month later, that new phone was stolen. Now, the "old me" would have crumbled. I would have cried, screamed, blamed myself for being careless. I would have replayed the event in my mind for days.

But instead… I was calm. No panic. No tears. No self-blame. Just presence. I was genuinely fine as if nothing had happened. I was with a group of friends when it happened, and they kept asking, “Are you really okay? Why aren’t you reacting?” Even I evaluated myself, waiting for a delayed breakdown maybe the tears would come tomorrow, or in a week. But they never did. That is when I realized: I had changed.

On this journey, I have come to see that we often fall into two traps.

First, we try to fix everything at once. We spread ourselves too thin, instead of committing to one habit and practicing it consistently. Second—and perhaps more dangerously we over-consume self-help content. We scroll, watch, read, and listen endlessly. The advice is everywhere, and while much of it is valuable, it is easy to get lost. You consume so much that you begin to lose your own voice. You forget who you are and what truly matters to you. Instead of finding clarity and joy, you drown in confusion.

That is why conscious consumption is critical.

Are you simply consuming information? Or are you applying it? Are you building habits that foster real growth? Are you aware of your thoughts, or are they just echoes of what a coach or influencer once said? I once heard a question that became a turning point in my journey: “If you didn’t know anything you know now, how would you react to this situation? Be authentic.”

That question made me pause. "Who is the authentic me?" I asked myself. "What are my unique thoughts, untouched by past pain, trauma, ego, or societal expectations?" And that became the next step in my journey discovering the authentic me. Not the version shaped by the world around me, but the version rooted in my own inner truth.

This journey—filled with subtle shifts and surprising revelations is beautifully unpredictable. But oh, how worthwhile it is. Growth doesn’t always look like glowing skin and perfectly curated sunrise routines.

Sometimes, it looks like staying calm when everything goes wrong. Sometimes, it sounds like silence, feels like neutrality, and hides in the smallest, most ordinary moments.

Sometimes, it even feels strange—this peaceful, unfamiliar calmness gives you chills, making you wonder if something is wrong. But no that’s you doing the work. That is what growth feels like. That is what success often looks like.

So, keep going. Even when it feels invisible—it’s working.

Today, I invite you to pause and ask yourself: “If I didn’t know anything I know now, how would I respond to this moment? What could I say or do? How could I behave?”

Try approaching life like a little child, unaware of past pain and trauma, and imagine the new reality you could create for yourself.

Thank you for reading. See you next time.